GOOD PARTNERS

For a good relationship, some or more of the following points may be considered:

1.     Can you both be alone without looking for a partnership as a relief or escape?

2.     Is there a more or less similar absence or presence of personal growth?

3.     Are there more or less similar levels of intelligence?

4.     Can you, instead of quarreling about symptoms, discuss underlying forces, such as childhood damages, sex differences and cultural differences?

5.     Can you together survive stress situations, such as travel hardships?

6.     Is there physical attraction or, more precisely, good sex?

7.     Can you have silence together without having your energy drowned?

8.     Can you have a good laugh together?

9.     Can you both tolerate any differences between you?

10.   Can you give up expectations that the other will change in the future?

11.   Finally, and perhaps most importantly, is there real love at both sides?