To acquire inner peace

The search for inner peace starts with the realization that we miss it. We can do yoga and meditation, work hard, quarrel with partners and bosses, lay on the beach, walk in the mountains, give in to addictions, declare the violent jihad, invite people to love each other, fight injustice and many other things for thirty or fourty years and still not find inner peace. What is more, a lack of inner peace can very well be an extra motivation to do all those things while they do not automatically lead to the realization that we lack inner peace.

Only when we have learned what we miss, we can deal with it. The absence is what humans experience when having to leave the paradisiacal early fantasies of fetuses and infants. As aging infants we learn to see those fantasies as unrealistic and leave them behind.

But hardly any child has the conditions perfect enough to smoothly overcome those fantasies. Nearly everybody suffers damages during this transition. The more we subconsciously suppress such type of trauma, the harder we will find it to realize that type of pain and as yet learn to overcome the paradisiacal childhood fantasies we still carry deep inside our brain.

For many of us, feeling our trauma and digest it, as we could not fully do when we were children, is hard work, very hard work. Acquiring inner peace does not depend on thirty years of just meditation, amassing money or laying on the beach, but on successful trauma healing in whatever form.